When you learn to control your erotic energy, body postures (asanas) of yoga and breathing control techniques (pranayamas) can help enormously.

Additionally, it is good to aim to make life as healthy and holistic as possible. This will also bring more efficiency to yoga practice. Diet should be pure, one in which meat and processed foods are eliminated. It is recommended to quit smoking, coffee and alcohol consumption.

Watch your breath

Breathing is a crucial element in tantric practices because it is closely related to the body and the mind.

Have you ever noticed that when you are stressed the tendency to breathe faster occurs and when you want to calm down, breathing slowly and deeply helps? Or that when you make love your breathing rate is accelerating and only in the moment of orgasm, both breathing and mind are silenced?

Then everything stops; it is the moment when God pours a drop of ecstasy in our hearts.

This is one of the great secrets of tantric eroticism. It’s one of the secrets that can transform your life.

What do you have to do? This requires you just to be attentive to how you breathe each moment during lovemaking.

Focus your mind firmly and constantly on its rhythm, a rhythm that you keep as slow and deep as possible.

Or contemplate in a relaxed way your breathing as it is, even when it begins to get faster due to excitation.

If you focus your attention on it, you realise a conscious control over an unconscious process is dictated by the parasympathetic system of the brain. This way the control over ejaculation is also assured.

Note: During lovemaking it is good to breathe deeply, rhythmically and slowly, mostly through the nose.

Gradually slow down every breath. Until it gets really slow and prolonged. So slow and deep that you don’t even feel the sensation of the air passing through your nostrils.

At that moment, it is important for both you and your beloved to twist your tongue backwards, push its tip on the soft palate of your mouth and hold it firmly.

At the same time, concentrate, both of you, in the middle of the forehead, in Ajna chakra, also called the third eye, and firmly visualise the energy that ascends permanently.

Breathing will indeed become cosmic when it becomes imperceptible.

You will realize that there will be times when you almost don’t need to breathe.

You will feel how you absorb energy or pure Prana through the whole body.

If you can keep breathing this way during the erotic act, the control of the sexual fluid will be much easier, almost by itself and you will spontaneously experience the state of beatific meditation in the couple.

You will see that the sensations you experience have a new flavour, they are more intense and dilated in the whole body.

The stability of breathing controlled by the mind helps very much in the practise of sexual continence. You’ll be done with involuntary ejaculation, with the senseless loss of the erotic potential.

Conscious pauses during the lovemaking

Another very simple method that brings spectacular effects.

As you make love, stop for a minute. Stay perfectly immobile. Become more aware of your breathing. This will calm you down as if by magic and you will be able to taste the euphoric state of silence and stillness.

These spontaneous, flashing moments will stop the normal flow of time. The tendency of the mind to be agitated is thus annihilated. And the control over the erotic potential is much easier.

Such stops should be short at the beginning and can be repeated 10-20 times during one erotic act. If you practice this constantly, especially when one or the other of you is about to reach orgasm, you will manage to master your hugely amplified erotic energy.

Especially efficient is the retention with full lungs after a deep inhalation. Keep it until the impulse to ejaculate disappears and repeat this technique whenever you feel there is a danger of discharge.

It is worth the effort

It can be that the man feels a reduction of pleasure at the start of training because he is so focussed on trying to control energies. It can sometimes feel for the man as if the erotic interaction lacks spontaneity.

However, the spontaneity of couples who make love with loss of sexual fluids pay a big price in terms of their spontaneity: the comet-like orgasm leaves them with the bitter taste of non-fulfilment.

On the other hand, if you control yourself too much, mistaking concentration and awareness of your states for being tense, you won’t discover certain territories of your own being and eroticism.

It is therefore equally necessary to learn to master yourself, whilst maintaining your spontaneity. Obviously, it’s not easy. All these need time.

But the reward of this effort is great and transforms you from pauper to prince.